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Everyone needs flexible working at some point, not just mothers

Everyone needs flexible working at some point, not just mothers

Andi Fox of Blue Milk is a blogger I read because she’s always smart, and makes me think, even when I think she’s wrong or I can’t relate to what she’s writing about. She has a guest post up at Essential Baby about returning to work after having a baby. In it she says:

workplace flexibility, phased returns and part-time options will help companies recruit mothers – and failure to do so leads to an unnecessary loss of skills and experience. I’m particularly encouraged by this message because for a long time I’ve been telling anyone who will listen that part-time work is the secret to happiness. And not just for mothers either! [emphasis mine]

It’s that last line I want to focus on, because I’m somewhat bemused by how tightly focused the flexible working debate seems to be in mainstream media. There seems to be a willful disregard of all the other reasons why people might need flexible working, work from home or part time roles to allow them to continue with their jobs. It’s not like getting pregnant turns women from mechanical workers into human beings with other needs and responsibilities.

In no particular order, here are a few I’ve seen in my closest circle, none of which have anything to do with voluntary motherhood and many of which have nothing to do with choice:

  • Fatherhood
  • A broken leg, swine flu and other accidents
  • Long term illness or disability
  • Panic attacks, depression and similar
  • Caring for a family member
  • Caring for other peoples’ children
  • Relocation of the workplace
  • Relocation of the home
  • Narrow field of employ + can’t relocate
  • Unexpected caring responsibilities thrust upon them
  • Religious commitments
  • Caring for animals
  • Snow and other bad weather
  • Unreliable public transport
  • Hobbies and passions

These aren’t all permanent – heck, even in Switzerland the snow melts eventually – but pretty much everyone will have one of these things happen in their life time. I certainly have, and luckily my employers have been supportive – or I’ve started looking for new work, because if an employer threatens do dock your pay because of transport delays, why would they support you if you get hit by a car?

Andi Fox comments that even in a “positive discussion about women combining work and family”:

I couldn’t help notice the odd little barb that reminded us that having a paid job and a family isn’t supposed to be easy. For instance, there was concern about how job-ready mothers will be on return to the workforce

Having a paid job and a life isn’t supposed to be easy, according to many employers. Why don’t we just admit it? The goals of most employer are not that their employees lead happy, fulfilling lives which are successful in many ways – they’re organizations designed to make money, and do that by trying to get the most work possible out of their employees.

The benefits most articles suggest working mothers demand aren’t complex or impossibly expensive. They’re, in my experience, slighter demands than the benefits many software companies offer well-paid single young men. In hip young companies, where trust is standard and creativity is expected, then you can expect to be able to do the following, without much comment:

  • Start late if the bus is late and make up missed time at the end of the day
  • Start late, just because you feel like it, and making the time up later
  • Work through lunch and leave early
  • Take a laptop home and working while you wait for a delivery
  • Check personal email in a meeting or work when your contribution is not required
  • Take personal calls in the office
  • Take a day off at short notice
  • Arrange for part or all of a commute to count as work, as you’ll be working on the train
  • Arrange your schedule or work part time so you can pursue a hobby or sport

When we talk about work-life balance as a motherhood issue and tie it up with maternity benefits, parental leave and adjustments relating to childcare, we do two really crap things. First, we separate the category ‘mothers’ or ‘parents’ from the category ‘workers’, making the smaller group fight the whole fight. Second, by stepping away rather than standing together, we ensure that what should be a general workplace improvement becomes a special privilege which you can only get if you personally grow a baby.

I had a job interview once, where one interviewer explained to me that while the contract was for 40 hours, they generally expected more and said (and I’m paraphrasing slightly) if it doesn’t hurt, you aren’t working hard enough, followed a smile, am I right? and a laugh.

A job interview isn’t the best place for a philosophical debate, but my answer was simple: I didn’t take the job. There is more to my life than work, and work needs to respect that.

A new challenge and an old one – BBC Big Read one year on

A new challenge and an old one – BBC Big Read one year on

About a month ago, I found my reading theme for the year when I signed up for the Tea and Books challenge over at The Book Garden.

This challenge is all about long books. To enter, you commit to reading a number of books each over 650 pages long. There are a few loopholes – and super-long books count double – but it’s pretty straight forward. I signed up immediately and spent a happy hour or three (when I could have been reading) sorting through The List and choosing my long books.

I’ve already read the first one – The Pickwick Papers – and if the challenge does nothing else, then getting me through 700+ pages of Dickens is well worth it. Thank you, Birgit, for the inspiration!

A year of Big Read books
I’m terrible at anniversaries – it’s a blessing and a curse – but I realized recently that I’ve been working on the Big Read challenge for a year now – and I also spent the whole year either reading or avoiding Great Expectations. Oops. Still, I finished it in the end, which I hope bodes well for the challenge as a whole.

I read a lot anyway, so the volume of books for the challenge isn’t the hard part for me. The challenge is to stick with it, to finish each book (including a lot of ones I’ve pegged as long or dull or both). To keep me going, I have formal and informal sub-challenges along the way. So far these have included read for free and read whatever the library hands you.

It’s a technique I use for lots of longer projects, because it’s natural that motivation will flag when the goal seems so far away, and completing a mini-challenge can be a real boost. I’m already looking forward to book 100 – after that, it’s just a long slide to the end of the project, right?

Current challenges
As the Big Read is going to be with me for a while, I can’t expect it to always be interesting – without a little help. The challenges have evolved and at the moment I’m working on:

  • Read long books (for the challenge above)
  • Read the books I expect to be dull
  • Publish at least one review of a Big Read book every week
  • Get to 100 books!

I’m trying to be realistic with my goals. I started this project on a whim but I do want to finish so I’m shifting it as I go and try to keep the goals mutually supportive – or at least mutually compatible. There’s a bit of a clash between publishing every week and reading really long books so one might have to go. I suspect that a book a week won’t be sustainable long term, but it does keep the pace up.

It’s been an interesting year – I’ve discovered a couple of books I really love and now have the right to an opinion on a good number of classic novels I’d never read. Many of these books are cornerstones in English and English-language literature, so being aware of their plots and themes has expanded my literary vocabulary.

The only problem – I don’t know what to read next! Check out the full Big Read listand the list of books I’ve read and recommend me something. It doesn’t have to be your favourite, or even a book you like – just pick a title and maybe add a line to tell me why you think I should read it.

New Year, No Goals?

New Year, No Goals?

If you’ve met me in real life, you may be wondering why I haven’t posted anything about New Year’s resolutions yet. My first response to any problem or project is a list, and I usually have a dozen on the go at once. I have lists of books I want to read, places I want to visit, things I need to do before next Wednesday and ideas for a house I might have when I’m retired. Last year I said:

My life is quite flexible and interesting (rather than predictable and comfortable) and I like it that way. It stays that way in part because I keep making goals to change things, try things and visit new places

and finished optimistically with:

Taking the time to write these lists and this post remind me that there are a lot of things I’m looking forward to doing in 2012. All in, I think it’s going to be a really good year. I hope it rocks for you, too.

As usual, I’ve been terrible at predicting at the start of the year where I’d be when I ended it, so a lot of the goals went by the wayside. And this year has had its good moments, but also a lot of sadness.

The net result is that this year, I’m thinking small. I still want to try new things, go new places, but I’m not ready to commit to a big project. I don’t expect to go round the world, run a marathon or write a novel this year. I could really use your help finding things to do. Suggest something you enjoy, or you think I might enjoy, and help me expand my list.

I’m particularly interested in:

  • Swiss things and things in Switzerland (books, films, food, museums, mountains…)
  • things you’d like to read a blog post about (could be anything!)
  • books (always, any genre)
  • places to visit (ideally in Europe, due to cost)
  • cool things I can do as a one-off (go to a zumba class, bake a cake, ride a horse…)
  • knitting patterns and challenges

Any suggestions? You could change my life, you know!

Is an ebook a second-rate book?

Is an ebook a second-rate book?

Some weeks ago I read an article by one Joe Queenan titled ‘My 6,128 Favorite Books‘. I mostly enjoyed the article – it’s lovely to read about someone with reading habits as eccentric as my own (he once tried to spend a year only reading books he thought he’d hate, I once tried to read the school library alphabetically, both goals predictably ill-fated) – but the section I’ve been thinking about since is this:

Electronic books are ideal for people who value the information contained in them, or who have vision problems, or who have clutter issues, or who don’t want other people to see that they are reading books about parallel universes where nine-eyed sea serpents and blind marsupials join forces with deaf Valkyries to rescue high-strung albino virgins from the clutches of hermaphrodite centaurs, but they are useless for people engaged in an intense, lifelong love affair with books. Books that we can touch; books that we can smell; books that we can depend on. Books that make us believe, for however short a time, that we shall all live happily ever after. [emphasis mine]

I disagree.

I think it’s fair to say I’m ‘engaged in an intense, lifelong love affair with books’, and you may not need any more evidence than my 200 books project, but in case you do:

  • I taught myself to read while walking shortly after I learned to read, and always have a book in my pocket – sorry Mum, I know I gave you palpitations worrying I’d get run over
  • Until I was 20 I never willingly gave away or sold or traded a book – even ones belonging to my brother which I didn’t like
  • I still spend more money and far more time on buying and reading books than on any other hobby – yes my book stash is bigger than my yarn stash

So, credentials established, here’s my problem: I love ebooks. I love ebooks more than paper books, and I wish I could magically convert all my paper books into ebooks.

When my parents bought me a Kindle, it seemed to them like an obvious gift for the reasons above. At the time, K and I were sharing a flat and moving regularly, so anything which stemmed the weight of books to be boxed and carried should have been welcome.

I was skeptical. I loved books, books with covers and editions and age. Books with smells, mostly pleasant. Books on my shelf, showing visitors my erudition, books on the bedside table ripe with possibilities.

And yet, the books I have in paper form, the books I’ve loved over the years, which I’ve kept and carried, stored safe from water, fire and small children, I rarely read. Because I can only carry one around at a time. Because they’re fragile from age and wear. Because they’re usually in a different country or town or in a box in an attic or lost or leant. Because I had to give some of them away, or we’d be drowning in books, so that I know I have had copies of Lolita, The Satanic Verses and several other Big Read books but given them away, unread, because there’s only so much space for paper.

Ebooks are a salvation. I can access every single ebook I’ve every bought or been given from anywhere in the world. If my Kindle gets lost or stolen or smashed I can get a new one, use a smartphone or a laptop and the books are still there, unchanged.

I no longer have to cull my collection and cull again when we move. Books I didn’t like are as weightless as perennial favourites.

It’s all about access
Growing up as an English-language reader in Switzerland, finding books was mostly luck. Luckily, my parents had a good collection, and let me roam it at will. Luckily, they were willing to volunteer at the American Library (‘as we’re there every week’), to give me money for book sales at school, to spend precious home-country time trawling through bookshops.

But with all this wealth, there were things I missed: the second book in the What Katy Did series, the final one in the Emily Climbs series, the information that Diana Wynne Jones wrote more than three books, that Connie Willis wrote at all. Any series, however short, was liable to have holes in, even in the library. School stories, like Mallory Towers, were particularly frustrating as they’re so linear. The Trebizon series was, as far as I was concerned, only one book.

A credit card of my own and the rise of the big, online book sellers alleviated the problem but raised their own frustrations: high postage costs, treks to the Royal Mail depot and the usual risks of buying a pig in a poke.

Now, I can be in Switzerland (as I am), remember a book I read once and liked, immediately download a sample (yes, I still like it) and then blow all my mad money reading the whole 10-book series in less than a month.

It’s bliss.

So while I can’t touch or smell an ebook, while part of me misses displaying my collection (hence the blog, the G+ stream), my ebooks are still ‘books that [I] can depend on. Books that make [me] believe, for however short a time, that we shall all live happily ever after.’

And that’s what makes them books.

Looking forward

Looking forward

Sunrise. Alps in the distance across Lake Geneva, water, sky and mountains tinged pink. Black silhouette trees in foreground.

2012 has been a rough year and although I put it behind me with mixed feelings, I’m happy to welcome 2013.

It’s a good time to start a new project: A Picture and a Hundred Words is a way to show you more photos. I tend to only blog pictures I’ve just taken, so if I’m busy (e.g. travelling) I don’t share all the photos I’d like to.

This shot of the sun rising over the Alps and Lake Geneva, taken a couple days ago, doesn’t do the scene justice, but was nonetheless well worth getting up for.

Fifty books in 2012

Fifty books in 2012

On Friday, I published a review of The Colour of Magic which is the 50th book I’ve read and reviewed for my BBC Big Read 200 Book Challenge. I’m pleased with how the project is going and aim to continue posting a review every Friday until I finish the challenge.

Fifty books is a lot of books, I’m a quarter of the way through the list already, and it seems like a good moment to review the project.

  • 24 of the books came from my excellent local library (Cambridge Central Library)
  • 7 books came from Project Gutenberg
  • I only paid for 4 books (not counting library fines!)
  • I spent £16.04 on these four books

The rest I either had or borrowed from my parents’ collection. Their book hoarding support has been invaluable – as well as letting me store my dead tree books at their house and hanging on to  many of my childhood favourites, they kept a lot of the books I’ve passed on over the years, adding to an eclectic collection of their own. I’ve found all sorts of things off the list there, from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory to Cold Comfort Farm.

  • 32 different authors
  • 21 books I’d never read before
  • 4 books I’d never heard of

The first 50 included a lot of rereads and books by familar authors. I took advantage of the library request system, and there seemed to be a quick turnaround on YA and kids’ books, so I read a lot of those, as well as some very random things.

  • 10 Jaqueline Wilson books
  • 4 by JK Rowling
  • 4 Terry Pratchett books
  • 3 by Roald Dahl

The list is doing a good job of introducing me to new things, but as I’m trying to avoid spending much money (most of the books are £3-7 for Kindle, if they’re not free on Project Gutenberg) and I currently have access to my parents’ library, I think the next 50 will mostly be rereads.

However, that does mean I’m facing a year of reading dutifully – the books I’ve got available are mostly long or dull or both, and I’m wary of reading the ones I’m looking forward to first as I think I’d give up if all I had left was Dickens, Elliot and Hardy. (Not that I only read books on the list, but still.)

  • 42 free classics left on the list
  • 24 books I’m really not looking forward to
  • 36 books I am looking forward to

I also enjoyed doing some themed reads – like Children’s Book Week, and my Childhood Favourites mini-challenge – so I might do more of that. A Christmas Carol is on the list, which seems appropriate for the coming season, but I haven’t spotted any other festive titles.

I find books much more interesting when someone’s recommended I read them – or even recommended I avoid them. The Big Read list is here – can you help me out? Are there any you love? Any you hate?

Children’s Book Week

Children’s Book Week

Running from 1-7 October 2012, the Children’s Book Week is “a celebration of reading for pleasure for children of primary school age”. It’s been running for 80 years and is generally A Good Thing.

This year the theme is ‘Heroes and Heroines’ so I’ve selected seven books from the Big Read List which are aimed at children and will be posting reviews of them over the next seven days. To tie in with the theme, I’ll spend a little more time looking at the heroes in the books and thinking about heroes in general. I should probably mention now that I don’t like pointlessly gendered words so tend to use hero for both male and female characters.

Children’s Book Week is kind of a big deal, but it’s largely run by volunteers organising local events around the country. I’ll be spending the week in Switzerland, out of the way of all the fun, but if you’re in the UK do look out for events happening near you – libraries and schools are the best place to start but some large venues are also hosting events.

Is it greener living in a caravan?

Is it greener living in a caravan?

To be clear, I’m not talking about holidaying in a caravan – I’m talking about living in a caravan full-time, either on one site (as we did in Cambridge) or touring (as we are now). And I’m comparing our caravan life to our previous life – one car, commuting by bike or public transport, etc – not some mythical ‘typical’ life or the national average. I haven’t got an internet connection right now, so I can’t do the research to find that out anyway.

Where we started from
K and I are not super-green, but we try to make environmentally sound choices. All else being equal, we pick the greener option – but all else is rarely equal, so the environment has to face off against fair trade, convenient, cheaper, tastier and the rest of the ‘all else’.

Water – we use less now
In the house we had a dishwasher, showers every day, water on tap (literally) to wash up. Now, every drop of water we use in the van has to be carried to the van by us. And although refilling the water tank is not a big chore, it’s still a chore and we’d rather play Transport Tycoon or read a book or blog. So we’re careful when we wash up and are adept at washing up in a small amount of water.

We also shower less (sorry, strangers on the train) as there’s a choice between paying 50p for a shower in the shower block or hauling water for a wash in the van, so if we’re going to the pool or gym, for example, we’ll wait and shower there, rather than showering twice in one day.

Electricity - we use less now
We’ve gotten rid of most of our appliances – no TV, microwave, vacuum cleaner, washing machine, tumble drier. We still have the laptop – as evidenced by this post! – and a few other gadgets, like phones and our electric toothbrush. We haven’t switched the hot water heater on yet, and the water pump only uses a tiny amount. And as we’ve only got one room, we usually only need one light on at a time – having two on seems decadent!

The first site we stayed at was metered, so we had to buy top up cards, which made us very aware of how many pennies worth of electricity we used. We spent £15 in six weeks, and had to be frugal for the last few days as we were down to our last pound on the meter.

Gas – about the same, maybe more
It’s summer so we weren’t heating the house and we’re not heating the van. We still cook with gas, but as we only have two pans we can’t make terribly elaborate meals, so we’re probably using a little less on that front too. However, we’re no longer sharing our cooking with 3 other people, so per person we may be using the same or slightly more for cooking.

Petrol – we’re using more
Towing the van takes more petrol than not towing the van, obviously, but even while we were static we were using more petrol. We parked up at a lovely site where K could cycle to the station to go to work, but there wasn’t much else nearby. We drove to visit friends, to get groceries, to get to the library – all things we usually did by bike before.

Other travel – probably less
We’re taking public transport less, obviously, than when I was commuting to London, and we don’t expect to fly anywhere on holiday or to visit family in the next few months, but we’re still using buses and trains to get around the local area.

Waste – more per person
We’ve gone from living in a shared house, buying in bulk, cooking in bulk, to living in a van with limited storage space and only two people to cook for so we’ve got more packaging per person to throw away.

Household chemicals - about the same
While we’ve got less to clean, we no longer have access to mainline clean water and sewage pipes, so we’ve got more chemicals to deal with keeping things sanitary.

Personal consumption - less!
As we’ve got less space, we’re shopping less and we’re more likely to wear things out, repair things and use them up to the full as we won’t necessarily be able to replace them immediately and don’t have any spares.

Out-sourced consumption - lots more!
When we lived in the house, we had our own WiFi, used our own shower and toilet most of the time, our own landline phone. We had friends on-site so didn’t have to drive to meet them, and had people over rather than eating out at a restaurant.

Now, as our space and resources are limited (and with the upheaval of the move) we’ve been eating out more, showering at the gym or pool, using the WiFi at coffee shops and friend’s houses.

Borrowing or buying these extra resources makes it hard to figure out how much we’re using – we’ve refilled the 40L water tank twice, so used less than 120L of water at the van in 6 weeks, but that doesn’t count flushing the toilet in the toilet block, showers at the gym, or even drinking water, as we fill that up separately. Sometimes we even wash up at the site taps, so the 120L is a really woolly and useless number – if it doesn’t seem like much, it’s because it’s missing a lot of things.

Set-up costs – much less
The cost to the environment of building a caravan is much less than building a house. Of course, we were living in a hundred-year-old house and bought a fifteen-year-old caravan, but the point still stands. Sort of.

Greener over all
On balance, I think we’re having a lower impact on the environment – particularly when you factor in the alternative travel costs. Last week we visited Belgium and Luxembourg for the first time, and next week we’re going to to Lichtenstein and Italy – all without a single flight. We’d struggle to do that – and enjoy it – by train or with just a tent. For a one thing, K’s car is only little so once you’ve put the tent and sleeping bags in the boot, there really isn’t much room for yarn!

In praise of libraries

In praise of libraries

I went to the library today. I had some time and – more importantly – I know I’ll have time to read the books and also be able to return them in a few weeks. I’ve only been a couple times in the six months I’ve been working in London, and it’s a shame. It explains why I haven’t been reading many new things and thought my reading list was starting to get stale: it’s really hard to browse for ebooks but it’s so easy to try new things in the library.

There’s something special about walking through a library, skimming titles, pulling attractive books off the shelves, browsing. Every book you see, you can take home and read for free which means that you can take any book you like – a dozen, even, at my local library – without checking a price ticket or spending the grocery money. The possibilities, the adventures, the stories are nearly endless.

Books on a shelf, spine outward. Each one has a symbol sticker on the spine indicating genre e.g. a rocket ship, castle, etc

Nowadays, libraries offer so much more than books – they have computers, rent out DVDs and CDs, have genealogy and local history sections, language classes, computer lessons, story time for children… – they’re an amazing resource and it’s a real shame that so many are under threat or having their budgets and facilities cut.

I don’t remember ever imagining my wedding day when I was young but I do remember imagining my library. I was convinced that one day I would have a whole room just for books – and I made a concerted effort to turn my bedroom into that room. I don’t think I got rid of a book until I was at least 18. I kept the books I loved and the books I didn’t like and I reread most of them on a regular basis. I read books which were too old for me and books which were far too young.

Looking across a room. All that can be seen is a bookshelf, filled with books, a bed and a pile of books on the bedside table

Nowadays, I have just one bookcase and it’s half-full of DVDs and knitting magazines.

This fairly major attitude shift built up in several waves. I discovered Bookcrossing while I was at university, which made giving books away fun. I didn’t stop buying books though, and a couple years after graduating I had almost a whole bookcase of unread books. I then moved several times in fairly rapid succession and got thoroughlysick of packing, hefting and unpacking books I hadn’t opened from one move to the next.

The final nail in the coffin of my childhood library dreams was the Kindle. And although I love having 600 books in my pocket, it’s not the same as having 600 books in a room. So I’m really glad that part of my taxes go to paying for several rooms around the city with thousands of books in each of them. And I’m really glad that I went to visit the books again.

How quickly do you read?

How quickly do you read?

There are plenty of gadgets online to assess your reading speed but this reading speed test from Staples has a couple of interesting features. First, it places you on a scale marked out by familiar groups like ‘third grade students’ and ‘college professors’.

ereader test
Source: Staples eReader Department

Second, it tells you how long it will take to read certain classic and well-loved novels. Unsurprisingly, there’s a lot of crossover with the Big Read list, which made me wonder how much time I’m actually dedicating to this project.

If  I read as quickly as I did in the test – which is unlikely, I think, as a one-page sprint is not the same as even a 50-page chapter – then I could finish Alice in Wonderland in just 37 minutes but it would still take 14h14 to read War and Peace. Assuming that the books they’ve chosen are of fairly typical length and complexity, each book would, at that unusually fast pace, take 3h40 on average. Multiplied by 200, that suggests it will take at least 733 hours to get through the list, or about 20 weeks, working full time.

I suspect that the real answer will be double that, so while, in one sense, this is like signing up for a year-long project at work on a whim, as I’m not in a rush to finish, 30 minutes or an hour a day seems like a reasonable investment. I’ve already reread several books I fondly remember from my childhood and discovered one really absorbing new author (I’ve just finished book four of the Outlander series) and I’m looking forward to rereading The Fantastic Mr Fox and The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy.